Abby,
I am
looking to put the past behind me. I wrote this for you, Brad and the
girls. Brad encouraged me to share it with others...
2012 was not a good business year.
Three of my businesses
were struggling. Our tire recycling facility had a fire and we were not able to recover. We closed the
business down. Our Oil Filter recycling facility lost its major
client; other ventures did not work out. Towards the end of 2012, my
brother (operations) and I (office side) came back to our machine shop and had
the unfortunate experience of seeing firsthand the negative affects our
absence. Our employees and management did fantastic, but circumstances beyond
their control had all three businesses close to bankruptcy. Our core
business, B&R Custom Machining Ltd had to lay off five employees towards
Christmas of 2012; a culmination to the year I dreadfully regretted.
Personally, I was in very
rough shape. Being the “CEO” behind 2 company closures and near
bankruptcy certainly took a toll on me. Louder than the “failed
dreams”…and the consequent fallout was the reverberating voice of how deeply I
made a mess of things. Battling my thoughts became as much of a problem
as the “mess” that lingered from the 2 failed businesses. I deemed it an
accomplishment if I could get 3 hours of sleep at night. Drinking became
a catch 22…if I did not drink, I was consumed with the pressures of business
and did not sleep. If I did drink, I went to sleep but knew this was a
band-aid at best. In the back drop, was the realization that my 3 (now 4)
beautiful daughters and precious wife were getting a battered, beaten down
man. Trying not to be a zombie at B&R, I was drubbed with “feedback”,
results, observations and conflicts all suggesting our machine shop was not in
good shape. My mind was not clear and our shop was not in a position to
make massive investments to magically fix anything. I did not know what to do.
The only thing that was clear to me was how much of a failure I was.
Confronting reality:
I felt like I was 8
years old all over again being sent to my disastrous room to clean. I was
paralyzed and did not know how or where to start. I knew the pain, pressure and
stress of confronting reality was more honorable then throwing in the towel,
but I did not know how to stay in the game. If there was one undercurrent
that I believe carried me when I laid in paralysis was a thread buried in my
head from childhood. My Dad must have told me 10,000 times, “NEVER GIVE UP!”
Somehow, I think it was destiny that those 10,000 times were instilled in me,
arguably prophetically, for such a time as this.
Back at B&R Custom
full time by end of 2012, I said with shortness of breath, “Brad, if we don’t
work 80 hours per week, we are in jeopardy of going bankrupt.” With no
time to lament his brilliance of operations gone bad at the hands of
circumstances out of his reach, he agreed to those hours and so began “phase
1”…no investment, just work. With Bradley working like an animal, me
trying to improve matter after matter…and our remaining employees focused and
determined, our cashflow eventually stabilized. Once stable, I rounded up
the remaining employees and shared with them explicit details about our other
business failings and declared my a fanatical focus to improve B&R, little
by little, bit by bit. Some employees left. I don’t blame them. With the
support of several family and friends, I tried my best to confront reality and
change.
My value is fixed, and forever high.
As mentioned, the
stream of “here’s what’s wrong with you and the company that you are the boss
of” became so overwhelming that my embarrassment and shame rose to such an
extent that I could not handle it anymore. My performance (or lack
thereof) was tied to my identity and value.
I saw my value through an almost pontifical paradigm initiating a
daily fight to prove to myself I am important to those around me. When the businesses came crashing down,
along with the ensuing barrage of things I am doing wrong, my state of
restlessness overcame my senses due to the obvious threat “failure” had on my
identity. I was a mess. It was hard for me when loved ones told me they
are concerned for me. I tried to be
strong, but my eyes deceived nobody who knew me. I remember crying out to
God, “If you want a disciple to represent your name, I ask you pass on me for
my failures have overtaken me”. It was in this restless moment that
I received deep understanding of Romans 5: we are justified by what Jesus did
on the cross: His shed blood for the remissions of our sins and his broken
body…for our healing. Justified and righteous only by the accomplished
work of Jesus. A great decision I made was to receive God’s gift of
righteousness. I felt 10 tons of weight lift off of me. The joy
that I am loved and accepted in spite of my performance (whether good or bad)
became real to my heart and a joy to my soul. When assent to scriptures
is overrun by conviction of scriptures; I was free indeed from the torment of
failure. If my performance earned the favor or love of God, His gift
would cease to be grace. I can and will receive God’s unearned favor,
regardless of my performance.
Re-entering work, with my value fixed and
high:
When the same problems
that drove my despair resurfaced (weight of failed businesses, work
problems, fallout from 2 failed businesses, challenges of the remaining
business, ect), I re-entered those problems with an entirely contrarian
perspective: rest. I entered the problems repeating to myself, “This
problem does not alter my value. Lord, help me with this problem for I lack the
wisdom”. To expose my weakness (when the leader is to have the answer) was
freeing! Thanking the person for the feedback was tough…but I did it
without any sense this was tied to my value. My stress levels were
alleviated and my sleep improved. I am convinced that my performance is
irrelevant to my value. Therefore, when I perform, it is out of a
revelation that my value is untouchable, so I am passionate about focusing on
the problem…without letting “me” get in the way. My internal response to
problems/conflicts/issues went from: “The leader that failed…” to, “Thank
you for the input, I look forward to solving this with you”.
2013: Investments
Beaten down, but not
out of the game, our team decided to focus on “getting better at what we are
doing”. No more new businesses. Simply focus and get better at what you are
doing. By laser beam focusing on getting better, B&R was confronted
with several areas we needed to invest in. We made those investments and
saw surprisingly strong returns. We saw the culture of our shop
change. In was later in 2013 that I revealed to all the employees,
“B&R will be seeking to refine its focus. We will be moving to ‘High Demand,
Low Supply’ work." This was quite the goal for a recovering machine shop,
but our team’s laser beam focus and mindset of continual improvement seemed to
have laid the groundwork for a miracle.
2014—the year of execution: in
the context of rest and thankfulness.
We won several
contracts of complex components and received approval for some incredibly involved
programs that only years ago we could only dream doing. B&R has
executed several projects and is currently working on a titanium program that
will launch to Mars. Today, 90% of our work is now Aerospace and our work
backlog is 5 times greater than 2 years past. Somehow, B&R made very
serious investments in world-class 5-axis machining and are pouring all human
capital into quality parts that meets our prints. I am constantly
thankful for the ‘lifeline’ we were given and have still not wrapped my head
around how B&R is currently thriving. I am thankful that we have been
able to change enough to stay in business, and stay relevant.
Looking forward personally:
I echo what has been
said many times: “I do not know what the future holds, but I know Who holds the
future.” I rest in the accomplished work
of Jesus on the cross. I receive His abundant grace that has empowered a
callous heart to soften…and I believe more change is on the way! I rest
in the conviction that my performance is not tied to my value; a freeing
revelation that has lifted the now impervious weights. I am claiming I am
getting better each day: little by little, bit by bit. I am working on healthy
eating, greatly curtailed drinking and increased exercise. I desire to
intimately understand my family is a cherished gift and allow my time with each
of them to reflect this. I desire to respond in love (with my time, talents and
treasure) to my local church who so overwhelmingly loved on me during a period
I was convinced I was nothing more than a drag and nuisance. Little else
brings peace and fulfillment like “love responding to love”.
Looking Forward in Business:
My intention is to
“put the rough years behind me”, while taking the tough lessons with me.
This will set me up to best focus on the future without the encumbered past
possibly de-railing me or our team.
I desire to confront
my leadership role with the knowledge it is a privilege to serve, not an
entitled right. This realization causes “weight” of responsibility that I
am keeping separate from my value, so that in “worldly success or failure” I
operate from the understanding my value is fixed and high and can therefore
maintain an attitude of thankfulness and remain teachable. I am seeking
to compartmentalize my various roles and ‘hard-wire’ communication structures
surrounding my responsibilities so that I may better own the results I am
expected to achieve. B&R’s objective for 2015 is quite clear and
absurdly simple: success through the basics. My message to family and employees
is one: we are looking to both keep and grow on the ground we have gained; little
by little, bit by bit.